「破冰」是一個交際學的專業術語,這個叫法起源于冰山的理論,而「破冰」就是打破懷疑、猜忌、疏遠等人際交往間的「冰山」。英語里我們會直接用「ice breaking」來表達。
其實你距離和外國人交朋友只差了一個「破冰 ice breaking」,如果你不知道該怎樣和陌生人聊天,就快來看看Leanne老師給大家分享了哪些萬能句式吧!
☑ 句式匯總
①Giving compliment.
Hello. Love your_____, it’s so cool,where did you get them?
②Something with the physical body.
Wow, you are/have _____(adj.+eyes, talletc.). What do they do?
③Sharing opposite opinions.
I am loving the cold/rain/sun. (opposite of season)
④Something weird.
Hey, did you hear about_____(weird thing)?
套路1: Giving compliment.
☛ Hello. Love your_____, it’s so cool,where did you get them?
這里要注意的幾個點:
①為什麼不用「buy」呢?
因為用「buy」提問會有極大的機率使對話立即結束。而「get」會讓對方更容易接話,更便于雙方擴展更多的內容繼續對話。
②選擇什麼樣的問句更好?
· open question 開放式問題(√ 推薦)
· alternative question 選擇疑問句
· close question關閉式問題
③如果對方比較警惕,該怎麼解釋一下?
舉例:
I need to buy a cool present for sb.
☛ Wow, you are/have _____(adj.+eyes, tall etc.
). What do they do?
舉例1:
Wow you are so tall, do you play sports or something like that?
舉例2:
—Wow, you have lovely slender fingers. Do you play the piano?
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兩種可能:
①
—Yes.
是的。(對方會很驚喜,并愿意跟你分享彈鋼琴的小故事)
②
—No. Unfortunately I don’t.
我并不會彈鋼琴。
—What a pity. You should have played it with that beautiful fingers. So are you fond of any musical instruments?
那真是暴殄天物了——你手指這麼修長。那你喜歡什麼樂器嗎?
Leanne老師有話說:
這兩個套路的整體思路都是「贊美和夸獎」,只要大家敢于開口,把你看到的別人的優點和長處說出來,那麼破冰也就很容易了!